How to build up Self Esteem with the Law of Attraction

“Birds of the same feather flock together“ as the famous quotation says. Attractin is defined by Remez Sasson as the attractive, magnetic power of the Universe that draws similar energies together.
It manifests through your thoughts and ideas of a similar kind, people who think like you, and also corresponding situations and circumstances. In life we must always look forward to being attractive to others. Every individual aims for perfection in our daily lives.

Building Self Esteem with the Law Of Attraction.

This is where self esteem comes to a realization. When I was asked, “ Why do we need to boost our self esteem? “, I always answer that self-esteem is something that we need in order to be attractive to others and the fruit of attraction is development. It’s like why do we need love, it’s because we always want belongingness, a sense of security and a feeling that we’re part of this society.

Developmental Psychology defines attraction as a feeling of interest in a person. Sometimes it paves the way for power and influence. When dealing with people in everyday situations, Abraham Maslow in his hierarchy of needs, defined self actualization as the highest form of man’s needs, and this wouldn’t be achieved in a day. He defined this as a slow and steady process brought about by fulfillment of the lower forms of needs, such as physiological, belongingness, security and esteem needs.

Everyday, we often ask ourselves, why do we need to look good before we go to work or going to school? It’s because looking attractive is tantamount to the trust of others. We want to feel good about ourselves just because when people comment on how we look good, it’s like a stimulus for individuals to do their best for a good and strong personality is an indication of trust, integrity and respect.

The dictionary has indicated that attraction can be defined as a cognitive and social phenomenon. All people too apply these theories when keeping up with the needs of job satisfaction or to ace a job interview, but studies show that personality, looks and confidence go hand in hand in a working environment. Picture this, when in a professional level, those who dress up well and those who have a well-rounded personality easily gain the trust and overall positive feeling from their superiors. So personality as well as attraction is a catalyst to gaining integrity.

Not only in the professional world is the law of attraction applied, in a beauty contest, candidates are often asked, “ Which would you prefer, to be beautiful or intelligent? “, usually they choose intelligence or personality since if they have an attractive personality, they can be rich, influential and popular. In this scenario, people often define beauty as something that is appreciated and valued, thus beauty is not only defined as physical beauty but it’s character and personality. People also have the cliché that if you’re beautiful, you’re not intelligent, but there are a lot of successful people who, even if they’re not that physically attractive, they are termed as beautiful because of their ideas, strength and achievements. Sociologists define this a social attraction. When a person becomes famous or achieves something, people would describe them as attractive or beautiful.

Every individual aims for perfection, and integrity is what we need to achieve in life. I often remember the line from “ The Little Prince “ by Antoine de Saint Exupery which says “ It is with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye. “. Integrity is the totality of a person’s positive attitudes, strengths and good impressions from others.

This is something that we must ponder on, take care of and appreciated. When gaining friends, we often search for people who have the same interests, values and personality as the one that we have.
It is like feeling a boost in our self esteem once we are in a group of people who have a bond and a goal, to achieve and learn things in life.

Lessons and learning experiences are brought about by our social interactions with others since man is a social being, and man cannot live by himself, he definitely needs others to survive in this world.

The best way to attract others is by being yourself, by making the most of every opportunity that comes our way. We often instill in our minds that if something is attractive, then it will be beneficial for us, this has been the mindset for most people. Just by appreciating something is already an indication that we’re attracted to it. By merely being struck by the physical attribute of a thing, person or situation is tantamount to attention, thus the law of attraction manifests. Simply speaking, we often feel a positive feeling when we see someone or something attractive. And if we know that it makes us feel good, then it will be for our own well being and development.

So whenever people call us attractive, then it is an indication that we can give benefits to others and that if we can give self-fulfilling help to others, we can also provide self-actualizing support for others just by the fact that we are special blessings who can provide others. Being endowed with a positive character and personality is something that we should always treasure and celebrated. After all, our identity is what we are, it is a product of our positive experiences, values and character.